Wolf and I have been in couples therapy for a couple of years now. He wanted us to go to help us, primarily and specifically, to improve our communication skills. I finally agreed and we set it up. The therapist assigned to us is phenomenal. I assure you my decision is NO reflection upon her,Continue reading “I left couples therapy. Here’s why.”
Tag Archives: Cognitive
It’s Christmas Eve, 2021. I’m Reflecting
Reflecting on what? I do not know. Exactly. Or, specifically. Nor do I even know what my intent is in reflecting, at this moment at least. The best I can feel is simply because I suspect Normalizing and Rescripting are prominent for me currently. How does it feel? Weird Uncomfortable Good(ish) Positive SCARY Beautiful HarrowingContinue reading “It’s Christmas Eve, 2021. I’m Reflecting”
Writing is tough
As a person who loves words, ideas and writing, I seem to struggle greatly with ACTUALLY writing. I know I am not alone in this. How do I conquer this? Great question and one I do not yet have an answer for. I do have thoughts, excuses, reasons and, well, probably somewhere in all ofContinue reading “Writing is tough”
At Capacity and It is OK
January 24, 2021 Dear Diary, I must recap our last few sessions. Two are our couple sessions. Two are mine and one is Wolf’s. A total of five (5). Together, they are enlightening, informative and help build healthy boundaries, for me. See, I am at my capacity. The place where ‘Enough is Enough, something mustContinue reading “At Capacity and It is OK”
A Great Question. Maybe.
My medication management provider, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, just asked me a question. She does not know what made her think of it. The question? If Wolf and I were not together, would each of us be living in the truck, or, would we be elsewhere? Whoa. Wow. Hm. Um. Wolf, possibly. Probably, couch surfingContinue reading “A Great Question. Maybe.”
2021 arrived!
Not only has the year arrived, it seemed to slide in like an old quote I remember. “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally wornContinue reading “2021 arrived!”
Behavioral Health Care Manager
Both Wolf and I work with a behavioral health manager, through a local chapter of a multi-faceted social service organization. We are grateful! We are a great fit and becoming a better team all of the time. Our manager works with us as a couple. Legally, because we are not married, this means we areContinue reading “Behavioral Health Care Manager”
A Few Notes about this blog
Right now, Wolf is heading back to court for a second order of protection based on new information recently learned. That leaves me to be concerned for our mental and emotional wellbeing. The primary reason is we are both triggered and a number of unpleasant feelings arise for each of us, individually, and as aContinue reading “A Few Notes about this blog”
Speechless, over Strengths Perspective
In disclosure, I have my Master’s Degree in Social Work. This did not stop me from being speechless in couples therapy when our therapist said, “Wolf sees you from a strengths perspective.” It is true. We spoke about it. He does see me that way. The quintessential core of social work and until she saidContinue reading “Speechless, over Strengths Perspective”
Flashbacks have returned
Specifically, my emotional, maybe, mental, flashbacks. I do not have visual flashbacks, to my knowledge, for the most part. Whether that is a blessing or a curse, I really do not know. In terms of treatment options, visual flashbacks have more options available. They are, in some ways, easier to reframe for meaning to beContinue reading “Flashbacks have returned”
Rusty & Wolf 2019 